Category Archives: Toddler

Kids 1-3: A Side By Side Comparison That Is Likely Interesting To No One

January 28, 2016

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Have you ever sat with a group of parents, stuck in the middle of a 45 minute discussion about infant pooping patterns and wondered: HOW DID I GET HERE? HOW DO I GET OUT? This post is kind of like that conversation!

Truly I’ll discuss sleep training and sippy cups any day, but my favorite parenting conversations revolve around family dynamics; personality differences, birth order, how we are shaped by our childhoods. I also love how much our ideas about pregnancy and motherhood shift with time and/or more children. For example, if you have a child who sleeps through the night at a few weeks old, you might have a different perspective on sleep than someone who hasn’t slept through the night in two years. Time is an even stronger factor. I love talking to mothers of teenagers and adults. There is often so much grace and balance behind their stories, a comfort to those of us still in the toddler trenches.

I have no profound conclusion to share from these conversations. All I have is some raw data, a side-by-side comparison of three kids from the same uterus that is likely interesting to no one else but me. Even Austin will see this post in his inbox and hit delete. Feel free to do the same. Just glad I finally have it written down in one spot.

xo

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PREGNANCY

FIRST SIGN OF PREGNANCY
Baby #1: positive pregnancy test
Baby #2: positive pregnancy test
Baby #3: round ligament pain, food aversion, sore chest

FATHERLY RESPONSE 
Baby #1: what
Baby #2: yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Baby #3: so excited, do you want to watch tv

MORNING SICKNESS
Baby #1: medium, sick until 10 weeks
Baby #2: worse, sick until 12 weeks
Baby #3: worst, throwing up regularly until 19 weeks

#1 CRAVED FOOD 
Baby #1: mexicana
Baby #2: icy fountain coke
Baby #3: greek salad

WEIRDEST PHYSICAL AILMENT
Baby #1: eyelashes fell out
Baby #2: plantar fasciitis
Baby #3: toe and fingernail infection (kill me)

PREGNANCY ROSE
Baby #1: ability to sleep in
Baby #2: cold weather in third trimester
Baby #3: last pregnancy nostalgia

PREGNANCY THORN
Baby #1: pelvic pain
Baby #2: round ligament pain
Baby #3: tbd

GENDER PREFERENCE BEFORE ANATOMY SCAN
Baby #1: girl (super cool boy instead)
Baby #2: boy (super cool girl instead)
Baby #3: don’t care (don’t know)

DELIVERY DAY
Baby #1: due date
Baby #2: due date (I know)
Baby #3: tbd (whenever babe)

TOTAL HOURS OF LABOR
Baby #1: 24 hours
Baby #2: 17 hours
Baby #3: less than a day would be nice

BIRTH PLAN
Baby #1: natural birth please!!
Baby #2: whatever happens happens?
Baby #3: still deciding

BIRTH REALITY
Baby #1: epidural at hour 17 and 2 centimeters dilated, thank baby jesus
Baby #2: epidural at hospital door
Baby #3: healthy baby=grateful heart

POSTPARTUM CRAMPING
Baby #1: what’s that
Baby #2: hysterical sobbing, percocet
Baby #3: tbd

POSTPARTUM RECOVERY TIME
Baby #1: one year (third degree tear)
Baby #2: six weeks (praise)
Baby #3: tbd

BEBE

NEWBORN TEMPERAMENT
Baby #1: Charlie Sheen of babies (colic)
Baby #2: Mother Theresa of babies (angelic)
Baby #3: tbd

BABY’S SLEEP PREFERENCE 
Baby #1: insisted co-sleeping
Baby #2: insisted independance
Baby #3: (last baby so please cuddle with me until you’re 15)

BABY’S SLEEP MILESTONES
Baby #1: slept through the night at 14 months
Baby #2: slept through the night at 2 weeks
Baby #3: tbd

CRAWLED
Baby #1: a week before 7 months
Baby #2: a week before 7 months
Baby #3: (the later the better)

WALKED
Baby #1: 10 months
Baby #2: 9 months
Baby #3: (the later the better)

PACIFIER
Baby #1: self weaned at five months
Baby #2: addict at two years and counting
Baby #3: (no preference, pros and cons)

BABY’S STANCE ON BABY WEARING
Baby #1: yup
Baby #2: lol, nope
Baby #3: (please?)

BREASTFEEDING
Baby #1: weaned at 20 months
Baby #2: self-weaned at 6 months
Baby #3: (last baby so you will do this until you’re 7)

PERSONALITY PROS
Baby #1: easy attachment because often attached
Baby #2: easy to care for because often content
Baby #3: tbd

BIG KIDS

POTTY TRAINING
Baby #1: a year of struggle
Baby #2: take your time, kid
Baby #3: let’s work on being born first

NAPS
Baby #1: stopped at three
Baby #2: you will nap until you’re 5
Baby #3: (see above)

PRESCHOOL
Baby #1: first day at 3 years old, emotional armageddon
Baby #2: first day at 18 months old, best day of her life
Baby #3: tbd

HARDEST YEAR OF PARENTING TO DATE
Baby #1: the year of the threenager
Baby #2: expecting the same
Baby #3: have you ever met a three-year-old you liked

TEMPERAMENT 
Baby #1: tentative, sweet, sensitive
Baby #2: wild, happy, confident
Baby #3: tbd

CHILD’S INTEREST IN BABIES
Baby #1: 10/10
Baby #2: 2/10
Baby #3: n/a (the oven is closed, we can get a dog)

CONTRIBUTED PARENTAL GRIEF  
Baby #1: 100%
Baby #2: 100%
Baby #3: not looking good

CONTRIBUTED HAPPINESS 
Baby #1: 100%
Baby #2: 100%
Baby #3: so far, so great

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When Babies Get Bigger (Evie Turns 2)

December 13, 2015

Two years ago on a cold winter morning, Eva December entered this world on her due date after 17 hours of labor. Austin delivered her. There was snow on the ground. My first three thoughts were: Did I tear? No really, how bad did I tear? SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME THE SITUATION.

It was fine and she was a dream. Evie was a sweet, easy going baby from the start. When she turned one, I joked that she took up 10% of my parenting energy while her brother took up the other 90%. I guess she took this as a criticism and spent the rest of the year trying to prove me wrong. Therefore year two has been a year of reinvention. My carefree baby has grown into a loud and feral two-year-old. Instead of cooing on the living room floor and quietly playing with toys, Evie demands attention and craves adventure. No ledge is too high, no scream is too loud, no rock is left unthrown.

She’s the funniest, fiercest kid I know. So glad to know her.

Happy birthday to my wild, daring girl.


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Eva Turns One

Birth Story

Home Movies

Eva's Birth

Eva: 19 – 20 Months

August 11, 2015

Loves
Swimming, puppies, snacking, jumping, tackling, laughing.

Still
Spitting up occasionally and hoarding pebbles/dirt/rocks/small objects in her mouth.

Special New Installments
Talking in sentences, going to the gym childcare without paci, repeating words (but only for her brother). Singing an original song called “Daddy’s Shoes” in a breathy baby voice.

Notes
Taller and bigger and braver and crazier. Needy when she’s hangry and happy when she’s fed. Favorite foods are fruit, pasta, and ice cream (duh). Still lets her brother hold her and rock her like a baby, but fights him like a hyena when she’s mad. Wildest, grossest, funniest baby I know. She’s got this family right where she wants us, and there’s no place we’d rather be. Love our wild girl.

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