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Lately // October 2016

October 3, 2016

Hi friends. It’s been awhile since we’ve talked like this, so I thought I’d pop in to say I’m still here, avoiding piles of laundry and nursing a baby who believes I’m a 24 hour milk buffet.

When I’m not working on the book (most of the time) or parenting (all of the time), here are a few things I’m up to…

1. Dog-sitting and dog-walking via Rover to make a few extra bucks. My kids desperately want a pet, but because we’re already taking care of too many humans–this is a great compromise. They get a dog for a few days/hours and I get some easy side money. This weekend we watched a sweet Yorkie who was zero hassle, zero shedding, and great with kids. It was really fun! Yes, I make sure they are great with kids first (via a meet and greet and interview) and yes, you can set parameters on everything from dog size to if they are allowed on the furniture. You can also do it as few times or as often as you want!

2. Putting out a few Q&A posts on smart women via IG + FB. I have really been enjoying these series. Partly because I’m so proud of these women I get to call friends, and partly because I get really tired of talking about myself.

3. Reading this book for entertainment and this book for book club. Has anyone else read either of these? So far I’m enjoying them both.

4. Listening to this country mashup. I don’t listen to country music very often, but I really enjoyed this mashup of classics. Dolly Parton gets me every time.

5. Keeping this open in my Internet browser to read and re-read as needed. (For any other writers who occasionally need someone to tell them to keep going).

6. Not buying go-gurts for my kids anymore and making them myself instead with these. I am not especially crunchy, resourceful, or crafty (what a catch!), but I am able to make my own sleeves of yogurt instead of paying more money for more sugar.

7. Watching this special interview over and over again. Just in case you’re one of the few folks who haven’t seen it yet.

Everything else is more of the same: kids, work, kids, repeat–with an occasional mojito and trip to NYC on the side. Waylon is loving kindergarten, Eva is enjoying preschool and being the senior on campus when her older brother is at school, and Novi is doing what he does best (attaching himself to me like a spare appendage).

Have a great week!



Como Tomo + An Instagram Giveaway Update + Weekend Links

October 16, 2015


I said I wouldn’t do Instagram giveaways until my friends and I started to win them. Seriously, we can’t stop winning. Dear Instabloggers, I am not too proud to tag my friends 642 times to win a 25 dollar gift card to Home Depot. You’ve been warned. A weeks ago I won an iFit and now I can’t stop tracking how many calories I burn walking to and from the fridge. Thanks guys. My new motto is: Everyone should get free shit.

Due to this recent thrill of winning, I’ve been hosting a few giveaways on the ol’ gram. Since this is my little corner of the Internet, I can make the rules which makes me feel like Beyonce. Here’s what I’m thinking: giveaways where you only have to follow one other shop and contests that last no longer than a few days. Simple.

You can head over there for more details. Two weeks ago we gave away my very favorite baby bottles around, and this week I partnered up with one of my favorite Etsy shops to give away some very cute kid’s clothes. Stay tuned for the next one.

Back to those bottles. When I made a list of companies I love that would make sense for this space, at the top of that list was Como Tomo because they have the best bottles for breastfeeding babies. I recommend them to everyone. After sending them a few flirty emails, Como Tomo generously gave away their starter kit which includes one 5oz bottle, two 8oz bottles, fast and slow flow replacement nipples, and a baby teether. It was pretty amazing (congrats Joy!).

If you’ve been reading this blog for a long time, you might remember my struggles with breast and bottlefeeding both times around. When Eva was born, I was determined to find bottles that would work with my desire to breast and bottle feed seamlessly. My research led me to Como Tomo and we’ve been using them ever since.IMG_2781

Easy to clean, easy to use, and babies love them. They feel just like a boob! Whenever someone asks for new baby gifts, it’s on my list of musts. You won’t be disappointed.





Happy Friday


On Writing Books And Sending Your One-Year-Old To School

October 1, 2015


I’m sending my one-year-old to school today. She’ll be joining the 2’s class, where she will be the baby of the classroom–unable to sit still or stay quiet or resist ripping off her diaper “for fun.” Bless you, preschool teachers. You have a special place in heaven next to the cheese bar.


This plan was unexpected. The teachers came to us, and at first I said no until I realized a whole morning off to write would be gold if gold was financially worthless but emotionally thrilling.

I started drafting a few more paragraphs explaining myself and our reasons for sending her, but deleted them all because honey, I’m the mom and she’s going to love it.


In the meantime, I’ll be here plugging away. This blog is no longer my first priority as I’m in the middle of writing two books, but it is still a great place to post life events, the occasional essay, or fun things from the Internet. Those Friday links used to really bog me down, but now those kinds of light posts are a happy place where I don’t have to think about where the next sentence will come from. Who would have thought curating silly tweets or finding noteworthy links to read would become a relaxing pastime. Instagram and Snapchat (for the most part) are fun too. Feel free to block me.

As always, thanks for reading.


Not A Pregnancy Announcement

August 11, 2015


Whenever someone says they have an ANNOUNCEMENT on the INTERNET, I always assume they are a) pregnant or b) trying to sell me something. Unfortunately none of those things are true today. My uterus is empty and the only thing I know how to make are enchiladas, and I have a sneaking suspicion that receiving them in the mail would look a lot like a hate crime. I guess my Etsy dreams are dead.

Instead I’m just popping in here to say that after years and years of cybersquatting on my name domain (yes, it’s a thing), whoever was holding katebaer.com for ransom decided to make better use of their time and give it up. Maybe they had to pay their kid’s college tuition or maybe they were tired of my merciless emails asking if we could “talk.”  Either way, I snagged it, which is great news because it’s easier to say, easier to remember, and doesn’t look like someone threw a bunch of letters in front of a .com and called it a blog.

As a logistical detail, motleymama.com & kbaer.com will continue to redirect to the new site, but not forever. Please adjust accordingly. I promise this is the last time we’ll have this conversation.

In other news, it’s still summer, I’m still sweating, and my kids are starting to look a lot like the kind of people I’d never invite over for a party. Loud, demanding, constantly breaking things. You know you have young children when you linger in the parking lot to google brain tumor symptoms because you’re feeling tired and slightly deranged. School cannot come soon enough.

Some parting words of our lady of wonder, Tina Fey.

You go through big chunks of time where you’re just thinking, “This is impossible–oh, this is impossible.” And then you just keep going and keep going , and you sort of do the impossible.


PS: Some cosmetic updates–> You can now find Baer family photos and posts (old and new) under the Babies tab. Slowly importing posts from their previous websites. If you are subscribed to my email list, you probably received a bunch of emails today linking to those old posts. So sorry about that! I can think of no one more poorly suited to figure out technical difficulties than myself, but I’m trying my best.
Back to regularly scheduled programming very soon.

Insert Welcoming Remarks

May 7, 2015


Updated 3/15/16

Hello friends.

It’s been a long time since I’ve talked to you like this. As I’ve mentioned before, blogging has changed a lot over these four years. Personal narrative blogs have been replaced with niche blogs, affiliate links, Instagram, Buzzfeed, and what I call “worldview pieces.” Readers, including myself, skirt to and from blogs so quickly that it’s hard to continue any sort of story, making it necessary to write essays that can stand alone.

Sometimes I’ll read a random blog, click around, and still wonder what’s going on. Where do they live? What do they do? Why are they always at the beach?

I thought this might be a good time to clear things up.

HELLO. My name is Kate and I like Friends reruns and sandwiches featuring complicated mayonnaise. Technically my name is actually Kathrine, inconveniently spelled without an “e” in the middle, which means a bunch of KathErines with gmail accounts get a lot of my “urgent” Old Navy emails. Enjoy the maxi dress! Now an entire 25 cents off.

I live in a small town in Eastern Pennsylvania, a day’s trip away from New York, Baltimore, Philadelphia, and Washington D.C. My kids are Waylon (4, almost 5) and Eva (2, almost 15). My husband’s name is James but he goes by Austin. I guess both our parents liked things complicated. Last summer he graduated from medical school and started a six year residency in Radiology. This first year will presumably be the hardest, with work weeks averaging over 80 hours a week. Mostly we take things one day at a time.

This May we’ll be married seven years and we’re expecting our third baby in June.

In case you are wondering about the mild home renovations referenced on Instagram, we live in a very modest three bedroom home Austin’s parents bought at the beginning of medical school. Because we rent (pay the mortgage) from them–we can make renovations as we are able. When we matched to Penn State Hershey last Spring, we decided not to move (thank you Jesus) and just upgrade a few things. So far we’ve painted everything white and bought 100 items off Craigslist. We hope to own our own home someday, but for now paying a low mortgage on a house that’s not ours is actually pretty great. If the garbage disposal breaks, I just call my father-in-law. Please don’t tell him how to block phone numbers. Chances are we’ll stay in this house through residency, which means we’ll be here a total of 10 years.

If you’re wondering what I actually look like (not just what I look like with 17 filters), here is an all natural photo I plugged into the age predictor site everyone’s been using this week.


It identified me as 12-year-old girl. Bonus: I still dress like one too.

Things you’ll find on this blog: Real writing on Babies, Bodies, and Womanhood + Pop Culture Posts + Book Reviews + Music.

Friday posts are links to things to read, watch, or check out with some light PR.

You can find my most read piece, cross posted on Huffington Post, here.

If you’ve been listening to my playlists for a few years, you’ll notice Grooveshark shut down without warning and all my music vanished forever! I was sad too. After many recommendations, I’m learning Spotify and loving it. It reminds me of when I read The DaVinci Code ten years late and everyone was like I KNOW. All you need is a (free) Spotify account. So far, so amazing.

Two years ago I gave in to the self-indulgence of two Q&A posts. It led to one of my most read pieces on Church. Many new readers and some Huffington Post articles later, I’m wondering if there’s anything else you want to know. Did you stumble here and now you’re wondering why I’m constantly talking about night cheese? If you have questions, feel free to leave questions in the comments below or shoot me an email.

As an aside, it is worth noting this blog is no longer my first priority as I’m in the middle of writing a book, but it is still a great place to post life events, the occasional essay, or fun things from the Internet. Those Friday links used to really bog me down, but now those kinds of light posts are a happy place where I don’t have to think about where the next sentence will come from. Who would have thought curating silly tweets or finding noteworthy links to read would become a relaxing pastime. Instagram and Snapchat (for the most part) are fun too. You can find me on both at @katejbaer.

As always, thanks for reading, listening, responding, and double tapping. All the heart eye and dancing girl emojis right back at you.